To See or Not to See

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Many traditions are passed down from generation to generation, but most of them do not need explaining. A tradition such as eating dinner at the table instead of in front of the TV, or even watching the football games together on Sunday night is fairly self explanatory. These are traditions we can easily follow without question, but when it comes to the tradition of not seeing the bride before the wedding, we decided to ask the question: Why not?
The answer to this question seems simple enough – It is bad luck.
This tradition is believed to have originated from the Middle East, where arranged marriages were common and still are to this day. The type of arranged marriage we are discussing is the arranged endogamous marriage: one where a third party finds and selects the bride and groom from a particular social, economic, and/or cultural group. Basically, mom and dad know best, so they will find someone suitable for their son or daughter.
The main reason behind this tradition of the groom not seeing the bride before the wedding is supposedly to keep him from running away. The groom generally does not get to see his future wife until the day of the wedding, but many of us today in our culture, thankfully, can.
So why do some brides still choose not to see their husband on their wedding day? Do they think he will run away? No, of course not!
Some brides choose this option as a way of building up the anticipation level. In most cases the bride and groom have lived together or have been engaged for years before the wedding day. Given that, most couples also spend a lot of time together planning and going over details of the wedding. The break between the end of the rehearsal night and the wedding day can be a special time for the couple. It is a time that they can let go of planning or thinking about who gets to sit next to aunt May, and instead can just think about seeing each other at the end of the aisle on their big day!
To the future brides reading this, the path you choose to take will be the best one. So whether you want to create your own tradition or follow an older one, go for it!
Caryn’s Bridals supports you!

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